20 not interested in dating

I don't really date. It's not like a "thing"; I'm not out on some crusade to be single. It just happens that I'm not dating, and I'm not especially going out of my way to change that. Only now, when I sit down to count it out, so I realize that I've been single for three years — because I've never once questioned myself about it. I've had bigger priorities, and in retrospect, looking back at all the weird places my life has taken me in the past few years, I can't imagine the strain of trying to keep something up with someone without limiting my options. I have worked hard for the things I've wanted to make of myself, and being able to make snap decisions that I knew wouldn't drastically affect another person has been crucial to every little success.

There are many things that people must endure here on earth. Two of the hardest things? Both being in love and losing love. Being in love is awesome when it goes the right way.

Is not dating unhealthy? I've never dated, even though I've had opportunities. Is this unhealthy? For whatever reason, dating has just never been that big a deal to me. I don't have anything against it, and don't intend to remain single forever, but in the past I've always either felt that it would be a distraction from more important stuff, or wasn't interested in the particular female that was interested in me.

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