Being in a relationship with an alcoholic is perhaps the second worst thing after being an alcoholic yourself. It seems you are dealing with a person with two faces, who when sober, seems genuinely repentant but when under the influence of alcohol, is a stranger giving way to self-pity, denial or even aggression. So if you have just found out that the person you are dating is an alcoholic or your partner has become one, here are a few things to keep in mind. You may think that there is a difference between living with an alcoholic partner and merely dating one casually. You might think you can handle your lover's alcoholic nature in a casual relationship, but after a period of time, you'll realize that it will only bring you down. There is nothing to be done about a person who simply doesn't want to change.
Dating an alcoholic is a choice. Or at least it should be — and not a passive state that becomes your reality. Because let me tell you, it comes with its fair share of challenges — challenges that I know, all too well. I dated someone in my early twenties who I had known back in high school , who was a very interesting kind of alcoholic.
You may know someone or be dating someone who is in the beginning stages of alcoholism. The experts say that alcoholism is a progressive disease. When someone with an alcohol use disorder continues to drink, the symptoms become more apparent and more numerous, until it is finally obvious to almost everyone that they have a drinking problem.
Verified by Psychology Today. Toxic Relationships. Living with an addict can be a living hell. Unpredictable and dangerous, yet sometimes exciting and romantic. Not being able to dependably plan social events.